An “I Do” Debacle — Delilah’s Dilemmas
Many people feel as though it’s their place to speak on behalf of their better half or significant other.
In this case, Delilah helps a loyal listener with a situation involving her husband and his brother about his brother’s wedding:
My husband is currently deployed in Afghanistan. We got married last summer so we haven’t been married long. My husband’s brother is getting married soon and his fiancée has planned their wedding to happen before my husband comes home. I expressed my concerns to her how hurt my husband would be if he could not be there but she doesn’t get it. She claims I’m being dramatic…but I just want for my husband to see his brother wed. I want to be on good terms with the whole family but she is creating drama and hindering that ability. What should I do?
Wife in Distress
Dear Wife in Distress:
I appreciate your concern for your husband’s feelings but this isn’t your wedding. If your brother-in-law isn’t concerned about his brother standing with him or being there for him, then don’t make it your business. It’s their wedding and their decision, and there may be a myriad of reasons why they want to rush the wedding. Yes, it will be sad if your husband isn’t there, but it’s really not about an event or a ceremony; it’s about a relationship. And if they are happy and want to be wed, let them marry, and when your husband gets home, have a big party. But don’t take it personally and don’t be injured on your husband’s behalf. It’s his brother, he can Skype him or write him and say, “Hey bro, what are you thinking?” But don’t make it your battle. There will be plenty of battles you will have to fight in this life, especially being married to someone who is a hero and who is deployed. Save your battles…this one is between your husband and his brother.
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Rachel Specht contributed to this post