Caring For An Aging Relative — Delilah’s Dilemma

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As grandparents grow older, sometimes it becomes difficult to take care of them.

That's what brings about many hard decisions that may cause more turmoil than good.

Dear Delilah,
I've been having such a hard time with my 73-year-old grandmother. Her health is declining and we started staying at her house to watch her as she began showing signs of dementia. We finally brought her to a nursing home and she's been telling everyone we were throwing her in there because we didn't want her around anymore. The truth is, we simply couldn't take care of her anymore and we had no idea what to do to keep her safe. Is it bad that I feel so guilty about this? Sarah
Dear Sarah,
My heart breaks for you because I'm sure you would keep her in her home or your home if you could. I hope this will never be a situation in my family because I will have the foresight to plan things out and make clear my desires before that time comes so my children will never be burdened with the guilt that you are now feeling. But here's the thing you have to do: You have to pray about it and do some research to see if there are any other options where your grandma could live her life in your home or hers and still be safe. If you'll keep reading, below I share a wonderful resource for people in your exact situation, a company that can help you asses your grandmother's situation and the level of care she needs. It may be a good starting point for you and I hope it helps. God bless you. Delilah

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