Dishonorable Maid Of Honor — Delilah’s Dilemma

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When it comes time for your wedding, the focus should be on you and your significant other.

However, sometimes the focus drifts when there is turmoil occurring.

Dear Delilah,
My wedding is in two months and my maid of honor is my sister. Since my engagement, my sister has been less than helpful. The only thing she's done is try on some dresses and then when I picked one out, she made a comment under her breath and complained about it. She went with me to a bridal show in January but she didn't come with me to any of my dress fittings or help me pick out my dress. Everything I've done, I've done alone. And when I confronted her about it, she rolled her eyes and got an attitude with me. We're nearing the wedding and I'm getting more stressed out and angry about this. I really don't know where to go from here. Andrea
Dear Andrea,
At this late date, it's probably not a good idea to fire your sister from her maid of honor position as frustrated as you may be with her. But here's what you can do: You can sit down with her and have an honest conversation with her that starts out with, "I love you; that's why I chose you to be my maid of honor." And tell her how you're feeling, that you are concerned she doesn't even want to be in this position. It could be that she just doesn't understand what her role is and that's why she hasn't taken on any of the traditional duties. I was in weddings when I was young and I had no clue as to what I was supposed to do until I had a little more wedding experience under my belt. So give her the benefit of the doubt first and fill her in on her role. If you find out she's not interested in being the maid of honor and supporting you, then you should give her the option to step down and ask someone to replace her who can help you these last couple months. And if that's not an option, I would say focus on your husband and the marriage and don't let this conundrum steal your joy. Don't let your sister steal your focus from this wonderful event in your life. It's not really about the wedding anyway; it's about the commitment you are making to your beloved. I wish you all the best! Delilah

How would YOU feel if your bridesmaid, whether family or not, did this to you? Comment below!