Heartbreak At Home — Delilah’s Dilemma

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When someone close to you gets caught up with the wrong people, it's hard to handle.

It's even harder when that close person to you just happens to be your own son.

Dear Delilah,
I have a 21-year-old son who moved back in with me and now he's driving me nuts. He got into some trouble hanging out with the wrong guys and now he's on probation and needed a place to live. I thought it would be nice having him home with me but now I'm not sure. He can't seem to pick up after himself, and his girlfriend crashes here on weekends and they're expecting a baby soon. Plus, my young grandson is living with me while his mom bounces around staying with her friends. My son leaves for a couple hours and comes back high. I told him I hate the smell in my place but he doesn't care. I've been telling both him and his girlfriend they need to save money for their baby and a place to live, but they don't listen. I would love some advice. Lori
Dear Lori,
I suggest you go to Al-Anon or Nar-Anon so you can learn about your grown children and their bad choices, and you can stop enabling them to live this way. Stop giving them permission to use you. You are not a doormat. You are a kind and loving woman who wants to care for your family, and you don't deserve to be treated like this. But when someone is addicted to a substance, or something else, they no longer love others. They only love feeding their addiction, and they have to use others to get what they want. They no longer know how to have relationships. They have "userships," meaning they use others so they can feed their addiction. It seems to me you need to learn how to set boundaries and take care of yourself. Look into a program that can support you with that. God bless you. Delilah

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