When a drastic and heartbreaking situation happens, it becomes difficult for a person to forgive and forget.

However, when they're caught in a similar situation themselves, they have to contemplate whether the original situation was worth dwelling over.

Dear Delilah,

I'm the creep I used to hate. Eight years ago my ex-husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and he went onto marry that woman and now has two kids with her. I swore at that time I would make it as a single mother and succeed without him. My dilemma is I have found a man I'm so in love with and he means the world to me, but he is married and separated from his wife of four years. I feel like a hypocrite because now I am the "other woman." I have hated my ex-husband for years! I'm in need of advice on what to do - should I leave or should I stay? Should I wait it out? Should I end this relationship? I don't like where I'm at, please help me. Confused

Dear Confused,

I'm sure you didn't purpose in your heart to become the other woman, and yet one step led to another, and now you're here. So the first thing I would suggest is to use this as a means to forgive your ex-husband and his wife, and accept that we all make mistakes and we all make choices that can be hurtful. You have to let go of that hate because it will only eat you alive. Let this be a lesson that God doesn't want us to judge anybody. The other part is I can't tell you what to do; only God can. And unfortunately your love for this man is so strong, you can't hear God above the desires of your heart. So you need to spend some time away from the situation, enough to breathe, and enough to find out what is really best for you and your child. If this relationship is meant to be, it will be in God's time. It will not be while you're sneaking around because that destroys you and him and people you both love. So stop sneaking around and put it in God's hand and know if it is meant to be, it will be. Delilah

What would YOU do if you were the "other" man or woman? Comment below!

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