Letting Love Go — Delilah’s Reflections
Many people in the world deal with the problem of addiction but fail to get the help they need.
Delilah explains how one of her listeners dealt with this problem in her relationship, and no matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t help the one she loved in the end.
This next listener letter from Trish hits home because I know what it’s like to love someone with an addiction problem. You want to change them and help them, but the truth is, sometimes it just can’t be done. So what do you do? If this has been your experience what have you done? Today, I’m going to share what Trish had to do…
Twenty years ago I met the love of my life. I didn’t know it then but he was going to change my life. We were both recovering addicts. I had survived an abusive marriage, got clean and started a new life. At first we were just friends but then things changed. He swept me off my feet and treated me like a jewel. Our first kiss made the world spin, and my heart soared every time I saw him. I believed we were God’s gift to each other for all the pain we had been through up to that point. We were married the next year.
Things were wonderful until about 10 years ago when he started to use again. I tried and tried to help him for the next 4 years. Nothing worked. Finally, years later I left him. I had to; I couldn’t live like that anymore. But, I waited, hoping he would get clean and come back to me. He hasn’t. Tomorrow I will walk into a divorce court and legally cut my ties with him. I don’t know where he is. He’s been using and living on the streets.
My heart is breaking because I still love him and always will. Please play “Unchained Melody” for me, for Jon (wherever he is) and for the loss we both have experienced. I know my life will go on but it will never be as rich or as sweet as it was when I was in his arms.
What would YOU do if you were in this kind of scenario? Comment below!
Rachel Specht contributed to this post