Time To Stand And Own It — Delilah’s Reflections
Some people tend to get defensive or upset when they know they're in the wrong.
However, that usually doesn't help the person or anybody else in that kind of situation.
My friend has a 16-year-old daughter who made a bad choice. She took something that didn't belong to her and got busted. Instead of owning the behavior and making amends for it, she did what I do when I get busted; she went into denial, then she went into "Mind your own business," then she went into "I'm outta here" and stormed away.
I hate to admit it, and I'm not proud of this, but that is typically my pattern of behavior too in that kind of situation. I get very angry and defensive when I know I'm wrong. And then I just want to go away because I'm embarrassed.
But I can recall a man years ago speaking on this very thing and he said, "You ain't got no wings. Where you gonna fly?" You see, you can't fly anywhere that gets you away from the problem. Because the problem will stay with you in your heart and in your head, weighing you down until you make it right.
If you need to stand and face the music and own up to bad behavior, whether it's because you took something that didn't belong to you, or you were unfaithful, or you were dishonest, or you hurt somebody... stop making excuses or blaming others and own it.
Make amends for it and let God forgive you - and move on. Not as in run away or hide away or stick your head in the sand. But move on with dignity. It feels a whole lot better to move on and be free from the guilt that lurks in the shadows of your thoughts. This is still a work in progress for me, so let's work on it together, shall we?
Something to think about this week...
How do YOU handle a kind of situation where you're in the wrong? Share by commenting below!
Rachel Specht contributed to this post