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Ultimate Feeling Of Uncertainty — Delilah’s Dilemma


Taking that next big step in your relationship can either come easy or be a difficult transition.

In the case of a loyal listener of Delilah, it’s more difficult than previously thought.

Dear Delilah,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. We’ve talked about getting married, but I’m afraid to take that step. I think part of the reason is because when we got together I felt like the center of his world, and now years later, I feel like an after-thought. I know he loves me but I just can’t seem to take that last step with him. What can I do to change the way I feel? I love him and I don’t know how long he’s willing to wait. Marie

Dear Marie,

This is one of two things: Either you are afraid of commitment and you are looking for an excuse not to get married, or you are very intuitive about your relationship. There is no way in the world you should consider marrying someone who treats you like an after-thought. Don’t ever make someone a priority in your life when to them you are only an option. If your boyfriend loves you, cherishes you, honors you and wants to spend time with you – and you’re still afraid to commit – then you have a fear of commitment. If, however, he dismisses you, disrespects you, doesn’t spend time with you, doesn’t adore you, then it’s only going to get worse and you’re very wise not to take that next step. You need to honestly look at the dynamics in your relationship and ask yourself if you are your boyfriend’s top priority. If the answer is yes, then move forward. If it’s not, then run the other direction. I hope this helps! Delilah

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