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When There’s Death, There’s Denial — Delilah’s Dilemma



Being faced with the passing of someone you truly care about is an extremely difficult event in life to handle.

However, there’s no reason why people should remain down and out forever after an event like this happens.

Dear Delilah,

I was married for 33 years to the love of my life but I lost her to cancer. She fought it for 8 years and she never complained. When I would take her in for chemo treatments, she would sit so she could spot a first timer as they walked thru the door. Then she would always find a way to encourage them. Since she died I’ve had some pretty intense conversations with God that are mostly me yelling at God. I don’t understand why her. There are so many people who deserve deathbeds for the evil things they’ve done but they are alive and my precious wife is not. There are so many verses in the bible that allude to the fact that God answers prayers and that he will heal. So why didn’t he heal her? It just doesn’t’ make any sense. Do you have any insights? I guess if I had some idea why, it might make it a little bit easier. Thank you. Dale

Dear Dale,
I’ve asked the same question a thousand times about my mom, my brother, my son and other people in my life that God has called home. To be honest, answering your question is way out of my league. But all I can do is share what I believe to be true. We look at death as a bad thing, as the end. We look at it as a punishment: Why did my son Sammy die and not some serial killer who is in prison? But really, it should be likened to a caterpillar that goes into a cocoon and emerges as a beautiful butterfly with a whole new life and wings to fly. It’s a new chapter in our eternal life. Your wife accomplished what God sent her here to do and her reward is being out of pain and in a glorious paradise that far surpasses our understanding. You’ve still got work to do, Dale. And when yours is complete, you will be reunited with your beautiful wife. That is what I know to be true. God bless you. Delilah

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