Worn Down And Weary — Delilah’s Dilemma
Getting caught in a rut in a relationship can cause more than just a bump in the road, but more of an all-out crash.
In this case, a loyal listener is dealing with the back and forth feelings between her and her husband.
I’ve been married to my husband for just over two years and he recently left me. We’ve been going through a tough time with extreme ups and downs. There has been an extreme lack of communication – mostly on my part. That’s because I feel he takes everything I say the wrong way, or takes it personally. I cannot get him to understand my reactions are post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) because of my past relationships and then I tend to shut down. I have been working on this a lot and I’ve come a long way with it. He says he’s tired of trying and he leaves; then he comes back wanting to try even harder. I cannot do this anymore but at the same time I wonder if ending this marriage is the right decision. I love him. But sometimes I think it’s time to call it quits once and for all. Do you have any insight into all this? Weary in love.
Dear Weary Listener,
It doesn’t matter if you call it quits and walk away from this marriage. The next relationship you get into you will repeat the same pattern of behavior and it will happen over and over and over again – until you get the help you need to stop your destructive behavior. I suggest you stop running from relationships and run to a really good counselor and get help. Find a counselor you can work with that will help you understand what it is you were traumatized from in the past and how to work on healing so you can relate in a healthy, loving way. There are lots of programs and tools available today from books to tapes to groups to counselors to churches that can help you deal with the emotional baggage you’re carrying around. Once you deal with that, then you will be able to evaluate your marriage. When you can let go of the past and let God heal your heart and move into the future confidently with strength and a healthy attitude, then your relationship will have a chance to flourish. Delilah
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Rachel Specht contributed to this post